Anger – a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure or hostility. It’s an emotion that we all experience. It’s perfectly normal to feel angry about the things that you have experienced. Anger can start to become a problem when you express it through unhelpful or destructive behavior towards yourself or other people.
Anger is also something that if we suppress it and it builds up, eventually it will explode. Anger is a negative emotion and when we suppress anger for too long, it turns into depression.
As you can see, you can’t fight anger because you suppress it and you can’t ignore it either because it builds up. Now, if you do feel anger, write it down and burn it. Don’t suppress it. If you are angry at someone, write it down and burn it. It is well known that Abraham Lincoln used this technique. Whenever he was angry with other people, he would sit at his desk and write a letter where he would steam off all his anger, put it in an envelope, seal it and leave it in a drawer of his desk.
But the real trick is to not get angry. Do not let emotion overrule your mental attitude. Whenever you feel anger coming your way, pause, remember there is nothing good coming out of anger and head the opposite direction.
There are many common triggers for anger, such as losing your patience, feeling as if your opinion or efforts aren’t appreciated, injustice, also memories of traumatic or enraging events, and worrying about personal problems. All these reasons can be observed and ignored preventing anger from settling in.
If, however, you got angry and writing a letter is not really what you feel like doing at that moment, I can suggest some more ways to help you stop feeling angry:
– Exercise! Anger is, at base, an energy that expresses itself in and through the body. If you ever observed a fight between ducks, or any other kind of birds, you know that after the fight they would start flipping their wings. During the fight, there was a build-up of energy which if not used, naturally, gets released through this exercise. This is why you see sometimes people hitting walls, desks, throwing chairs, etc when they are angry, but I recommend exercise. ?
– Use your anger as motivation to make a change. Again, going back to the energy, you can redirect this towards something constructive. If you are angry because your boss didn’t appreciate your work, use that built up energy to see what you can improve in your work.
– Watch or listen to something funny. This always gets you out of trouble. I met people, who unconsciously if they find themselves in a situation that normally would get me angry, they make jokes about that situation and release the energy through laughing.
– Shift your focus. Somebody cuts you off in traffic, focus on what’s on the radio. Somebody yells at you, turn around and think about your dinner.
– Meditate. Through meditation, you enter a state of no thought, no thought – no anger. You don’t need to go anywhere, simply close your eyes and focus on your breathing.
You may think: “easier said than done!” and you’re right, but practice makes it perfect! As long as you pause, think and respond, you practice control over your actions and become more and more powerful over your life, and the laws are going to work for you and not against you.
Thank you for reading.
Love and Peace!