Think of a computer. You have the hardware and the software. The hardware is the physical part, the software is the non-physical part that is dependent on the computer and is a multitude of programs. A software would not exist if there wouldn’t be a hardware to support it.
Now think of yourself as a computer. You have a body and a mind. The body is the physical part and the mind is the non-physical part that is dependant on the body and it’s a multitude of habits. The mind would not be able to exist on its own if there wouldn’t be a body to facilitate its existence.
And then, there is the user – YOU! You are not your mind, and you are not your body either. You are a spiritual being operating a body that has a mind. Read that again: you are not your mind and you are not your body; you are a spiritual being operating a physical body that has a mind.
Allow me to explain. Do you remember a time when you wanted to do something, and you had second thoughts? That was you listening to your mind. Let’s put it another way: when you learned to ride a bike or drive a car for the first time, you gave your full attention to the activity, consciously making every move. After repeating the same action for a number of times that action became “natural”. The truth is you created a habitual activity and passed it on to your mind to control.
How many times did you “wake up” down the road not being aware of how you got there? Your mind did all the necessary activities that you programmed it previously. Have you ever noticed that certain reflexes/ reactions happen out of your control? I was watching a movie the other day and I was holding the remote in my hand and my mind was wandering off. At one point, there is about to happen a collision in the movie and the picture freezes just before that. It took me a few seconds to realize that my mind commanded my hand to hit pause to avoid the collision. I was shocked! I couldn’t believe what just happened.
Through a repetitive conscious activity, we train our mind to do that activity on its own, on autopilot if you want. And we wake up, we wash and brush, we dress and eat, and drive, and work, and get back home on autopilot. Do you realize how little you are actually doing in a day consciously?
A couple in Germany, one teaching French and the other English, decided to talk to their children in the language they were teaching in their profession from the moment of their birth. This way the kids grew up fluently speaking 3 languages with no stress or hassle – all natural, thanks to the brains’ ability to absorb easily the information given.
Up until the age when children start creating their own conscious mind (when they continuously ask “why”) they have no power of controlling what goes into their mind and they absorb all the information they receive through their 5 senses. The mind takes this information and starts building its software. Later, they consciously “try” different activities which are stored in the information center, and depending on the reaction/ feedback received from parents/ tutors/ society, that information is categorized.
All these activities and habits form our individual paradigm.
Knowledge – it is not part of a paradigm. What we learned in school or you read in a book doesn’t constitute part of your paradigm, behavior. You learn in school there are hundreds of countries and languages in the world and that doesn’t change your behavior unless you choose to do so. You also learn there were 2 World Wars in the past century, again this will not change the way you live your daily life unless you deliberately choose to do so.
The point I want to make is that there are brilliant people with a vast amount of knowledge, but they struggle to pay the bills, and then there are less cultivated people that have less general knowledge and are rich, happy, and live a fantastic life. The difference? Is in their paradigm. Some are programmed to succeed and some not. Some choose to reprogram themselves and get to succeed in life.
Our paradigm controls our daily life. It’s not you, I’m afraid, it’s your paradigm! Sorry to break it to you, but 90% of your day is controlled by that program in your brain that we call mind. And the way that paradigm is programmed determines the results you’re getting in life, so if you want to change the results, you have to change your paradigm.
If all your life you heard things like “money doesn’t grow on trees”, “you have to work hard to earn money”, “you can’t achieve much in life if you don’t finish a school” your brain will remind you of this every time you want to do it differently. When you get a job, you don’t expect to get rich because you know you have to work hard for money, so we accept whatever it is offered to us by society because this is how we were programmed, but it doesn’t have to be this way.
You are where you are because of the circumstances of your past, wrapped up in a state-of-the-art program, that controls your behavior and reactions. If you want to change that, you must take control of your ship. You must take control of your actions, and you do… sometimes, but it’s tiring, isn’t it? How many decisions can you make in one day? How many times can you say I won’t eat that, I won’t do that, or I choose to do this, I choose to go for a walk… 10 times a day, 15, 20? Tomorrow is a new day and you will have to start over – the never-ending war with your old paradigm.
Most of the time we give up the fight and if you tried a diet or tried to quit smoking or drinking, you know what I’m talking about, but there is another way – we reprogram your brain to do, by default, what we want. You can program your mind to enjoy the things you want and instead of stopping you from doing them, it will take you there by default.
The way to change your paradigm is by changing your behavior and you change your behavior by changing your habits. There are 2 ways you can change a habit: emotional shock (like an accident, the death of a dear one, etc) and constant repetition.
I do not encourage you to wait for an emotional event to start changing your life, I suggest you pick a productive habit, that you want to implement, and repeat it daily for a minimum of 21 days until it becomes second nature, and if you need help with this task, please follow this link, book yourself for a free/ no-obligation 30 minutes session and I will give you the support you need.
Thank you for reading.
Love and Peace!